We walk two blocks
to the church, your heels
clicking on the concrete.
A butterfly’s sitting on
the sidewalk, we put it
in a nearby tree.
Entering the main door,
we cross our hearts and
bow to candlelit statues —
an altar filled with fruit and photos.
At the end of the aisle
we select a pew
to face the crucifix.
Family arrives in moments,
carrying children, passing
kisses and hugs.
I can sense calmness —
twenty–nine years have passed.
The priest stands before us, elbows
bent to chalice and prayers,
hallelujahs rising to the ceiling.
I can see the notes wrapping
round the room — can the dead
hear our praises?
We gather after the mass,
returning to the matriarch’s house,
passing streets named after revolutionaries.
I look for the butterfly in the tree, I hope
it’s flown to safety in the flowers somewhere.
In your ample home we devote
the meal to your mother —
traditional food and drinks.
With our chairs in a circle,
speaking of older days,
I try to imagine what it was like
twenty–nine years ago.

Awww…. it sounds like a lovely celebration. You did what I would have done, picked the butterfly up and tried to put it somewhere in a bit of safety to at least give it a little chance to live a bit longer.
This gave me such a warm feeling. A really lovely read.
Bren, I was so happy when my friend Columba and I had the same thought about the butterfly. It is so nice to know like minded people. She is such a good friend and she doesn’t even speak any English. What a delight to be with her and family.
It is so hard to realize sometimes how fast the years pass, isn’t it? Twenty-nine years, almost thirty; but I bet that those years passed by like ligntning. Where go the years. A beautiful write with so many details that brought the scene alive.
Yes, Mary, they spoke of their mom/grandmom as if it were yesterday. I am invited to D.F. for the 30th anniversary, because that is where she is buried.
An outsider look at a religious ritual. I grew up in the Catholic church. It was not exotic to me; but I always understood how it could be to others, and strange cultural conventions could be. You wrote about it with care and emotion. Very well done.
Gay, I was also raised in the Catholic church, but there is something quite magical about the mass here, maybe it is the Latin or their complete sincerity, which I can’t say I really remember growing up.
man, hard when someone has passed to think back all that time…my grandfather, i have little snatches of him but i have lost much in the years since…i like hte butterfly as that is a bit of magic to me…and symbolism in reality…
Brian, they weren’t sorrowful, simply relaxed and enjoyed the fact that they were able to share this time together. Yes, the butterfly made my day.
So touching and such a kind thing to do for the butterfly. Close to 30 but just a fleeting moment in one’s journey! Beautiful piece, Pam!
How are you keeping otherwise, Ma’am!
Hank
I am doing well, Hank. I am a bit worried about my family in New York, other than that I am doing good and you?
beautiful touch with the butterfly…sounds like a great celebration..i think it’s great to remember in thankfulness
It is that, Claudia. Thanks.
I love the part about the butterfly, a beautiful write.
Thanks Ayala, it was a special moment.
Very pretty poem – the butterfly like a spirit, the mass and family and mother and chairs all vivid and real. k.
I had a good time with them Saturday. Thanks for the nice comment.
There’s a bit of a processional feel to this, something medieval, a ritual of cleansing and peace–the butterfly seems the perfect symbol. There doesn’t seem to be the bitterness of loss here, only the light of memory.
I hope you hear something soon from your people, pamela.
Hi Joy Ann, thanks for the well wishes. Yes, there is no bitterness, only remembering and love.
There is a particular love expressed for those who have passed that happens when people gather in a place of worship. I call those who have passed the “cloud of witnesses,” and I believe they are a heartbeat away in so many ways, as though a membrane of reality separates us.
Pamelita, the butterfly and your hopes that it flew away free, a lovely metaphor for the soul’s flight. Hope your folks are well, love, Amy
They are doing ok thanks, Amy. It is a bit of a mess up there.
Dia de los Muertos comes to mind and it is never to late to celebrate a life. What a wonderful tribute. I think we miss out on some things here in the US.